Up until a few months ago I was struggling with my motherhood role. I felt that motherhood was about sacrificing all of yourself for your children. I had a hard time trying to keep up with all of the demands of my two children, my husband, my work & my home. I rarely took time for myself and I was starting to feel miserable. I was bitter towards my husband for not helping more and for not being home enough. And I felt like a failure for not being able to do it all, for not being superwoman! After all look at all those amazing mothers that seem to be able to do everything by themselves and succeed. Why couldn’t I? Why was I struggling?
Then I attended a conference on Motherhood and it helped me put my views of motherhood and parenting into perspective. First of all I realized that I CHOOSE to marry my husband, I CHOOSE to have children. So whenever I start to feel bitterness towards with my husband or frustrated about the crazy day I’m having with my children, I remind myself that these are choices I made, I can’t change who they are or what they do but I can change how I feel and how I react to them.
I was also given some very valuable tools at the conference to help me prioritize and organize my life. One of the things I learned was that I can’t be a good mother or wife if I don’t take care of me. I needed to focus on what was missing in my life for my well-being. All it took was changing a few small things and making a commitment to myself to focus on my needs as well. I was so used to putting my needs at the bottom of the list.
These few small changes made such an impact on my everyday life, it was truly amazing. I decided that I needed to make a commitment to my faith, after all God has always been there for me and has never given up on me, there’s no reason for me to put him aside like I had been doing just because I was a “busy” mom. I also started exercising, something I haven’t done in years.
All it took was a few small changes in my attitude and routine and my life was getting better and easier. I could cope better with issues and my relationships with my husband & my children were improving. I can’t wait to complete the entire workbook – things will just keep getting better & better!
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